IN YEARS GONE by, Jack Carty would head into the dressing room after Connacht games, listen to his coach, and then immediately take out his phone to find out what people were saying about him on social media.
There were times when he even searched his name on online rugby forums to take another look at how his performances were being rated.
Firmly out of the habit now at the wise old age of 27, the Ireland international out-half didnโt recognise at the time just how poisonous it was.
Negative comments like โJack Carty was shiteโ or โWhy is Jack Carty our out-half, can we not get someone else?โ would gnaw away at the young out-half.
On the flip side, Carty also took gushing praise after good performances too seriously.
Heโs the latest player to feature in the โTackle Your Feelingsโ campaign run by Rugby Players Ireland, with the Athlone man detailing how he let social media make too much of an impact on him.
โI would have done it after every game,โ said Carty on a video call this morning.
โIโd have waited until after the coach spoke. If it was after a loss where you donโt want to be seen on the phone, youโd kind of turn into the corner or your locker and type your name into Twitter.
โThe first five or six things you read would have dictated how the game went in your mind, thatโs how I saw it back in the day.
โI would be on Boards and typing in my own name and I used that to see how I was getting on as a player.
โIt can go the other way as well โ if you play one good game, you can think youโre the best player in the world.
โI probably let the positive parts over-amplify in certain circumstances and when I got negative stuff, I let it dictate how I felt for three or four days. I looked for validation not from coaches or players but maybe from people online.โ
Looking back now, Carty realises that reading too much into the social media commentary negatively impacted his performances.
โIt would have affected my outlook on how I went into the next week because I would have had a hangover effect from the previous week and reading about myself,โ said Carty.
โFor that Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, it would have been at the forefront of my thinking coming into training โ thinking that Iโd played a bad game and building up these cortisol levels about making a mistake being brought up in a meeting but they were literally nothing, just some personโs opinion online.
โI remember with my girlfriend at the time, say after a Friday game, my weekend would have been ruined because I would be thinking about what a certain person had said. It probably did affect how my performances went because it affected my preparation the following week.โ
Carty recalls how he came face-to-face with someone who had been very critical of him for a long period but whose negative comments had suddenly stopped amidst the out-halfโs excellent form last season.
โOn Facebook of all things, there was a certain individual who I mention in the video that, over a period of time, had written stuff. I remember it was so unhealthy for me, I actually had screenshots of what this person had said on my phone.
โI was using it as a thing for motivation. Some people might think thatโs the right thing to do but I was on my holidays in Greece and I was looking at what this person had said to try and motivate myself to get better.
โYou can see in the video that there was a function I was at and I saw this fella. He said, โHowiya Jackโ and I was thinking, โWill I say something to this person because Iโve obviously had this at the forefront of my thinking for such a long time.โ
โI eventually said it: โLook, some of the stuff you saidโฆ and youโre not really writing anything about me anymore,โ and he goes, โThatโs because youโre playing well.โ
โWhen I look back on it now, the fact that I had spent so much time thinking about what Iโd say to this person, it was such a liberating experience because I realised, โWhy did I put so much thought and anxiety into what that person was saying?โ I could have controlled that at the very beginning if I had had the tools at the time.โ
Carty has worked hard to build those tools in recent years, visiting sports psychologist Niamh Fitzpatrick, who helped him to focus on the fun in training and playing.
He says he uses the Tackle Your Feelings app extensively to monitor his mood and balance his feelings around rugby. Keeping in touch with his support network โ family and friends โ is key too.
Carty would โlove to say it was like flicking a switchโ in terms of moving past allowing online comments to impact on him, but reckons it took 18 months of incremental steps to build up resilience.
โAll the things I had done stacked up on top of each other. People think success looks like that [he signals a constant rise with his arm], but itโs really like this [ups and downs] and you manage to get to where you are. Itโs about peaks and troughs.
โYouโre never as good as you think you are and never as bad as you think you are.
โThis variety of tools took the emotion out of when I played well and when I played poorly. That kind of kept me in equilibrium and I tried to get some level of consistency in my performance and that was done through preparing my week, having goals every week, and motivating myself to get better.
โSince that, Iโve went down and dipped again but fortunately enough, Iโve bounced back again. There have been times, like after the World Cup where I probably didnโt play as well as I could have, but I had the ability to speak to people and it made it a lot easier.โ
Carty feels these tools are more important than ever in the current situation the world finds itself in, with people unable to physically meet friends and loved ones.
โI suppose youโre cooped up in the house now so external from rugby your mental healthโฆ things that Iโve done like reaching out to family, Skyping, video calls.
โJust because youโre away from someone doesnโt mean you canโt talk to them.โ
Tackle Your Feelings ambassador Jack Carty is encouraging people to be supportive and avoid trolling or scaremongering when using social media, especially now following the outbreak of the global pandemic, Covid-19. Jack is lending his support to the #ImTakingControl campaign which encourages people to โTake Controlโ of their mental wellbeing using principles from both sport and positive psychology.
Well i think most people can understand that, i would back mickey harte to the hilt in any argument against RTE. I heard the skit and was shocked at the time, the guy that did it is just not funny.
Rte are muppets.
I agree with the 2 previous comments. John Murray has a smugness about him that reminds me of his predecessor on Radio 1 who has since gone on to โbigger and better thingsโ
Murray is a muppet. His attempts at humour are pathetic. I switch off in the morning as soon as the news is over. Sadly there is a dearth of talent at RTE. Perhaps lowering salaries to appropriate levels might remove the smugness?
John Murray (who makes nice bobs on the side when RTE buy shows; like the recent Charlie Bird excursion to the South Pole, which he was involved in producing), is woefully ill suited to what he is doing now. Heโs as funny as a broken leg in a marathon. Like Mooney in the afternoon, his signature tune has me reaching for the next station within nanoseconds.
He is a current affairs man, and thatโs it. Des Cahill is a colour reporter, not a snorting ill prepared sports correspondent with stilted delivery and a jarring manner. Pat Kenny is a well briefed incisive and thorough interviewer, who happens to be devoid of spontaneous persona, so they gave him a talk show for eleven years, at the bones of three quarters of a million for each of those years. Tubridy is a vacuous, bubble dwelling non entity, who only came to life in recent times when Fianna Fail were mentioned, and now heโs numero uno, and falling fast. Duffy was a vox pop guy, who was anointed by Gaybo, beyond his talents, and now makes the Lahvline his own personal soapbox, treating callers with sheer bad manners, abruptness, and sighing condescension.
The late Gerry Ryan, who drove me cracked with his on air consumption of any passing foodstuffs, his constant plugs for Harry Crosbie and his other buddies (in exchange for freebies of course), and his arrogance, had, despite all those failings, more charm, and more personality than the whole flippinโ lot put together.
He was probably one of the only on air personalities in that institution, (with the exception of a fair chunk of the news team, Morning Ireland et al.) who wasnโt promoted beyond their station, as it were.
RTE is a living breathing example of the Peter Principle, with a healthy dash of nepotism.
Rte should be shut down
What a choice of songโฆidiots. What planet are they on. John murrays show is scripted and produced, thereโs more than him to blame. And who leaked the contents of the private and confidential letter received by Rte? The postman?! The cleaner?? Professor plum in the library with the candlestick??!
All GAA players should boycott RTE this weekend and send the smug fcukers a clear message.
Ryan, with respect Gerry Ryan most certainly was promoted outside of his own showโฆsecrets, school around the corner, Ryan confidential, operation transformation and on and on. Rte seem to use the same handful of bores to do everything! But leaking a letter and handing a "satirical" script to John Murray of all people to read out??? What planet were they on. Did they think people would turn on the hugely respected Mickey Harte instead of them??? Eejits.
Oh, I quite agree, Jaynie. I wouldnโt be looking at him with rose tinted specs or anything :) I remember The School Around The Corner too!
But my point remains that his bread and butter, the morning slot on 2fm, despite the faults I bored ye all with, had far more individuality attached than John Murrayโs efforts.
His producer would want to beโฆI wonโt say what, but as you allude to, there is a large and bloated degree of support behind the guy or gal on the mic, especially and almost exclusively wrt RTE, and itโs ridiculous that none of them had the skill or the cop on to say, โHang on a second!โ
Very insensitive, Iโm a Dublin gaa supporter and itโs true to say we are like one big family.its very upsetting what the Harte family and John went through.shame on ya RTE.if I wasnโt going to the game tomorrow I wouldnโt bother watching it on tv.
โOne big โfamilyโ โ when the footballers play Croker is always full (or nearly so) , when the hurlers have a game never more than half full. Lots of โfamilyโ members donโt do their duty when the caman is involved.
Mickey Harte has had a tragic year, and in the face of all that stress he still pushes forward his beloved Tyrone to greater heights. The sketch was insensitive for sure, and would understandably have annoyed Harte at this time. It isnโt fair, however, to paint all of RTร as โmuppetsโ โ this is an organisation made up of many individuals โ doing their best and, more often than not, doing a great job. The problem with comment sites like these, I find, is that the negative voice is quite often the only one that bothers with being heard. John Murray is a fine presenter, so is Mooney etcโฆ Not perfect, but who is?
Totally agree with you there, wouldnโt exactly call him a natural! In such bad taste! Did not one person on the team sayโฆhang on a minuteโฆmaybe not the best choice of songโฆoh and probably best not to skit about the private and confidential letter our boss leaked, sorry, I mean received