SUCH WAS THE abuse that Conor Murray unfairly received in the wake of Irelandโs defeat to England in the Six Nations, he briefly considered just packing it all in.
It was only a fleeting thought but at that moment, the Limerick man understood exactly why Owen Farrell decided to step away from international rugby.
Like Murray, the England captain has been the target of relentless criticism and abuse.
Murray has been here before a couple of times but the biting nature of the messages last month came as a shock. All the more so because they centred around one brief moment in the game at Twickenham.
The pathetic people who bombarded Murray with direct messages on social media last month were obsessed with his box kick to touch late in the game. Despite it clearly being a collective decision driven by the Ireland coaches โ one that was easy to understand โ Murray was the target.
Ireland themselves were only concerned with the poor defensive set that followed, allowing England to grab the win with the last play of the game, but others remain obsessed about that kick.
โThat clip didnโt even come up in the review, thatโs how irrelevant it was,โ says Murray.
โGenuinely, weโve been around long enough to know how long you can hold onto the ball in your own 22, that was the right call. Weโd do it again, it was what happened after.
โChatting to Andy [Farrell], we had a giggle about it, it was wild. Unfortunately, thatโs just the way the world is.โ
Murray wasnโt laughing when he read the messages waiting for him after the game.
โJust abuse, really, just, โWhat the fuck are you doing kicking the ball away?โ
โPeople who, in fairness, โsupportโ Ireland and are frustrated that we lost and theyโre just looking for some way to vent and they see they can message you on Instagram.
โIt was mad, but if Iโd made a mistake or missed a tackle, youโd think, not fair enough, but you could see the reason for it. But genuinely, that kick didnโt come up in the review.โ
Murray was taken aback by just how many messages flooded in. He only read a few, thought โfucking hell!โ and clicked โdelete allโ.
He told some of his friends in Ireland camp just to make sure he hadnโt misread the situation.
โI was like, โJesus, Iโm getting serious heat hereโ and theyโre like, โAbout what?โ
โAnd that genuinely the lads in the dressing room saying, โAbout what?โ and I told them and I knew but it was just nice to share that with your team-mates and your coaches and then just chat about it and it was like, โNo, itโs irrelevantโ.
โItโs irrelevant but itโs not right at some point.
โSome of the messages arenโt just aimed at you, theyโre aimed at your family and stuff and youโre like, โWhoโs writing these?โโ
In no shock whatsoever, Murray says no one has been brave enough to say anything to him in person.
โZero, itโs funny how that works,โ he says with a wry smile. โI was ready for them after the England game if anyone came up to me!
โNo, they donโt and thatโs unfortunately the world we live in, and a lot of those messages were probably from profiles with fake pictures. Itโs a tough part of being a professional athlete in this day and age.โ
Thatโs the darker side but Murray still loves his job and loves being part of Irish rugby. Thatโs why he has signed a new one-year deal with Munster and the IRFU to cover next season.
Murray is coming off a central contract but his Munster deal is part-funded by the union in the latest indicator that he remains part of Farrellโs plans for Ireland. In fairness, that much was obvious from his four replacement appearances in the Six Nations. In the end, Murray was celebrating his fifth championship title and was happy with his contribution.
Lots of fans have retired Murray in their minds but heโs still valued by Farrell and is keen to keep playing on in red and green.
Murray is well aware of how some fans and pundits call for him to be moved on, but he knows that the people who matter most still rate him.
โThe outside is very different from the inside in terms of how coaches see you or value you,โ says Murray.
โThatโs an easy narrative on the outside โ โItโs a World Cup cycle and that age profile player is gone now.โ If youโre producing and are still an asset to the team or squad, then you keep going.
โI want to play rugby for as long as I can, itโs an unbelievable job and Iโve been really lucky to get to this age and still be feeling good and still be contributing to two squads.
โYou just ignore it. The longer youโre around the more shit you hear from the outside, excuse my language. You really learn whatโs important and what opinions matter. The longer youโre around, the more stuff you hear thatโs complete nonsense and an easy narrative to go by.
โWhat matters is the conversations you have with your coaches, your fellow players and your family โ they were a big part of it as well. Loads of things. Outside noise is very irrelevant. Especially the last few years, you realise whatโs true really.โ
Murray will turn 35 in two weeks but says there has been no obvious drop-off in his physical qualities. GPS and gym data mean thereโs no hiding for players these days. If he was getting notably slower and weaker, the decision to keep playing would have been much trickier.
He reckons the experience of 116 Ireland caps and three Lions tours means heโs a calmer player now than a decade ago, capable of understanding what is and isnโt important during a game. There arenโt many situations he hasnโt seen before on the pitch.
Given his experience, it wasnโt hard to imagine Murray heading abroad for a new adventure somewhere like France or Japan and he says he โlooked at loads of optionsโ again before agreeing his new one-year deal in Ireland.
But it made sense to stay where he is, on and off the pitch. He and his wife, Joanna, are happy here and Murrayโs parents, Gerry and Barbara, are still loving being part of his rugby journey.
โI wasnโt telling her much and she was worried that we might go elsewhere so sheโs delighted, she can go to Thomond,โ says Murray of his mother.
โItโs part of the decision as well, do you know what I mean? Theyโve been there the whole way through, ups and downs and the whole lot so, yeah sheโs delighted she has another year at least in Thomond.โ
And thatโs the thing โ Murray isnโt thinking that next season will be his last. Who knows whatโs around the corner in rugby but he wants to keep playing for as long as he can.
His next target with Ireland is playing a big part in the โexcitingโ two-Test tour of South Africa in July, while Munster have a huge game against Northampton tomorrow.
Murray will hope to make a big contribution off the bench on his 186th appearance for the province.
โHuge game, huge game,โ he says.
โGoing over there now, itโs a huge challenge but I think we can take confidence from what weโve done in the last year and in glimpses of what weโve done this year.
โI think if we manage to put it all together, or close to it, weโll have a good shot.โ
Off with his hand!